Our whole lives, we keep searching for “the perfect partner”, “the right person”, or “the one”— you can see that it’s a lot of weight we put on one person and the ways in which they are going to affect our lives.
They become paramount; second to nothing and no one, period. But, while on our quest to find this person, we put so much effort and focus into deciding whether or not they are the right partner, that we forget what to do once we’ve checked off the list of things that qualify them as one. What happens after you’ve decided that this is “the one”— even if it’s just for the moment? Do you pick up another checklist to sift through? Or do you make them sit back and watch what unfolds? Word of advice: Do neither!
Instead, when you find the right partner, do all that is in your power and maybe go a little out of your way, even to make them stay, and be the right partner in turn, for them.
Top 10 Things You Should Do When You Find The Right Partner for relationship or marriage Without having to Hesitate
1. NEVER STOP APPRECIATING THEM;
When you meet someone who fills you up in all the good ways, remember to appreciate them; whether it’s in conversations you have about them with others, or if it’s a conversation between the two of you. Never stop telling someone what you like about them. Why? For the simple reason that this person needs to know the way that they affect you.
2. ALWAYS BE GRATEFUL FOR THEM;
Everyone who comes into our lives does so for a reason. Some of them leave unexpectedly, some of them, we leave. And other times, some leave quite mutually without any prior intimation. It happens. Nothing is ever a coincidence. And if you apply it to a person, then you can be rest assured that the only reason the two of you met was because somewhere, somehow, you were seeking each other out without really knowing it.
The problem is once we have someone in our lives, we forget to be thankful for that person. So, the next time you forget to be grateful for him, or her, remember when you wanted them to be a part of your life so much but didn’t have that certainty as yet.
3. NEVER STOP EXPRESSING YOUR FEELING;
More often than not, relationships turn sour because we either spend way too much time concealing how we feel because we don’t want to appear vulnerable to the other person. It’s become more of a battle of egos over time where we’ve begun to feel as if the person who expresses their truest feelings and secrets is the one who is weak in a relationship and the one who hides things holds all the cards. It’s actually the other way around. And one day, you realize that the only reason something never worked out was because you couldn’t muster up the courage to actually tell someone how you felt. And then, all you’re left with is a bunch of ‘what- ifs’.
4. AND NEVER DOUBT THEIRS;
Sometimes, the reason why two people are destined to be together has nothing at all to do with reason anyway! Ever think about that? And that inexplicable reason is enough to bind two people together. So, the next time you start second-guessing the whole damn thing and start wondering why they’re with ‘someone like you’, stop. The important point here is that this person—in all of their being—is with you. Nothing else matters.
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5. MEET THEIR EXPECTATION;
We’ve tailored our brains into not expecting and in turn, not being held responsible; especially when it comes to another person. No wonder today we have concepts like “open relationships”, “no strings attached” and “live-ins” instead of one simple monogamous relationship, or marriage. We don’t want to be held accountable. We want easy in-easy out. We don’t know what’s real anymore because we don’t know how to expect and, in turn, meet someone else’s expectations. But, when you find your right partner, you want to be there for them; you want to be responsible and you want to prioritize them. And whether they tell you or not, they want the same things. So, put aside your egos and apprehensions and just give them your heart and soul in expecting and meeting expectations with this person. Expectations are good. It means that someone thinks of you being capable of more than just what you may be in a moment.
6. BE SENSITIVE TO THEM;
You have the power to affect a person; just like one person has the power to affect you. We are human. We were created to connect with other humans. So if someone affects you— emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually; and vice versa, be more attuned to this sensitivity. And know the affect you cause on a person.
Then, work with that and this person’s best interest in mind. It’s not just about you anymore. If it was, then you wouldn’t be with this person. So stop disconnecting with it and ignoring that. This is probably the one time that ignorance won’t lead to bliss.
7. PAY ATTENTION TO THEM;
You are here. They are here. All of time has come to exist in this one moment which can be infinite. Understand this. And be present. Pay more attention this person—what they’re saying, where they are, what they’re doing and whether or not the two of you are in each other’s peripheries. Truth is, you always are, even when they’re not physically around. But, the problem is we tend to let go when they’re out of sight; it’s not that you don’t care because you do; it’s not that you’re not thinking about them because you can’t stop doing that. But, you’re really not doing anything beyond that are you? Maybe pick up the phone and tell them you’re just thinking about them. There doesn’t always have to be a reason more concrete than that. It doesn’t matter what time in the day, or night it is. Just be there and let them know that you are.
8. DON'T GET SCARED;
Fear can never be greater than faith. Go back to the first time you met this person; to the way they made you feel —the joy and the curious certainty with which you began to look forward to every minute spent with them. You weren’t scared; you knew what you wanted. Look at you now—you have each other, just what you wanted. So what do you have to fear now? That it will somehow go wrong? That it’s too good to be true? That they don’t deserve you and vice versa? Think about this: everything in the past has gone wrong so in the present, thing can go right. Sometimes, the truth is as good as it gets; the Universe isn’t out to get you—it’s quite the contrary I assure you. So, don’t be scared because when two people who want to be together, are together, they can overcome the sum of all fears.
9. NEVER STOP FIGHTING;
Never stop fighting for them and what you have. You believed in it in the beginning. You saw the magic that could happen just by being with this someone. So remember that and stick to that. Remember the way this person made you feel even if it was the tiniest amount of goodness for the least amount of time. If it was enough to draw you to them and them to you, it is enough to get you through the roughest of patches. Remember wanting to put them above and beyond all else and remember the promises you secretly made without them knowing. Sometimes, a person; a connection is deeper and larger than the worst mistakes you make. If, at the end of the road, you still see yourself with this person; even if that’s as bleak a possibility as any and you just so much as desire it, then, fight for it till your last breath.
10. BE UNCONDITIONAL;
Feelings come. They have no rhyme; no reason and function unconditionally. You won’t stop loving someone if they do something wrong, or make a mistake; or unintentionally hurt you. It doesn’t work that way. You love them despite it all. That’s the only point of finding yourself being with the right person at the right time. That it’s unconditional. The day you find yourself putting conditions to your feelings, know that you’re either doing it wrong, or you never got it right to begin with. But, if it’s unconditional, then just stick to that. And then, let it unfold.